The Endless Delight of Becoming a Father!


Since my childhood, I liked one of the Abhijit Ghosal’s Hits “meri pyari gurya rani” , but never really understood the emotional current running through the song. Personally, I used to see everything and every relation from a reason supported perspective. Emotions to me meant nothing, and I often considered the socially popular ideas surrounding the fatherhood nothing more than advertisements.

However, all this came to an end as my way of thinking took a revolutionary turn as soon as I held my first baby girl. I exclaimed “what a special gift sent to me from paradise!” knowing that none can rationalize that statement. Surely, becoming a father served as the breakthrough in my life, and I considered it to be an eye-opening event.

Though I lost my pride in my rationalism, it made sense to me. My three day’s old baby girl taught me the things that I could not learn throughout my experience of life; still, it was not a shame to me. Nonetheless, I felt really ashamed of the ways I used to perceive the things before.

My daughter taught me there are some things that have or need no logical explanation and justification. She taught me to enjoy the feelings as they develop without looking for any logical meanings for doing so. She revealed to me a valley of love and emotions, which is beyond this materialistic world. Even though her mother had also once made a failed attempt to convince me of all this, my sweet baby girl gave me no chance to argue. I learned how to strike the perfect balance between emotions and logical way of thinking. She taught me some emotions appear as a shelter against all the worries that cannot be calmed through any reasoning response to them.

Certainly, it was for the first time in my life that I learned the way of living a balanced life. For the first time in my life, I learned what it means to be a father. For the first time in my life, I learned that some emotions and feelings are self-evident and cannot be understood until they are experienced. Moreover, most importantly, for the first time in my life, I discovered the real beauty of life- where? In “meri pyari gurya rani!”