Every child is different and develops differently. Your child may be laid-back, social, shy, intense or exuberant, do you know how your child is? Understanding your child’s temperament will help you better understand what your child is all about. Spend time learning your child’s personality so you can nurture accordingly.
Understanding what temperament is important to start with the understanding. These are a set of unique traits that a person is born with. It is a powerful tool which determines how you react to the world around. The way your child reacts to the different situation is one way to determine his/her personality.
Different Reactions of Different Children
Each child will respond differently to a situation. Your son may greet a cousin he has never before with a cheerful smile while your sister’s son might not even make eye contact. Although personality traits can become visible by 6 to 9 months old, they become more pronounced by the time your child becomes more social and verbal.
In this article, we will focus on 5 main traits which will help you learn your child’s personality. They are:
- Reaction Intensity
- Activity Level
- Frustration Tolerance
- Response to Change
- Reaction when Meeting New People
The reactions to the different situation will show your child’s personality. Some children do not react loud while some just want all the attention. For children who are low-key, you can try to get your child involved by making things interesting. Read a storybook with a dramatic voice with background music. Do activities which can be done by taking turns so your child stays engaged. Keep your child mobile to get more reaction.
For children who are loud, ensure that your child is removed from situations which can trigger a tantrum. Try redirecting to calm your child down or quickly give a hug. Make sure that your child gets enough sleep at night and is well rested, a tired child will be more irritable. Keep music soft and lights dimmer at times when you want your child to stay calm.
There are children who want to sit quietly for long hours just playing. While there are some who want to be on the move as soon as they find out they can. For children who are less active attract your child by keeping a toy away from her/his reach so your child has to move. Avoid pushing your child to move around before he/she wants to. Follow your child’s lead by providing plenty of opportunities through observation.
For children who are very active make sure that you provide plenty of opportunities which are safe for your child to explore. Play active games like hide-and-seek and freeze tag. Allow your child to stand when you need to change the diaper and put him/her down from the dining chair right after meal-time is over. Limit active play before bedtime.
Some children give up easily and move on to the next thing while some keep trying until they get what they want. If your child is one who gives up quickly or shows frustration, validate these frustrations by offering encouraging words. Guide your child to think logically without offering direct help. Try again after a snack or nap break.
If your child keeps trying until he/she succeed, join in the play. Offer different solutions and approaches to encourage creativity and skills. Be firm about when you need your child to stop. This may be difficult is essential.
Response to Change
Some children get bored easily with the usual routine and things while others don’t want anything to change. Their response is another way to judge their personality. If your child does not like change make sure that you use familiar objects ease their anxiety during a transition. Allow your child to slowly ease into new activities and environments.
If your child is always on the lookout for something new, make sure that you always take the time to cuddle with him or her once during the day. Being sensitive to your child’s feeling is extremely important and assuming that just because your child is okay with change, you can do that very often.
Reaction when Meeting New People
Some children immediately befriend a new person when meeting for the first time while others take their time slowly. This social skill develops with time but can be deciphered at a young age. If your child is shy around new faces you should introduce him/her while keeping them in the safety of your arms. Prepare ahead of time and talk to your child about who they are going to meet in a while. Tel your child and others that your child likes to take things slow.
If your child loves to meet new people and is very comfortable around them, make sure that you provide a lot of social interaction opportunities. Be on your toes and know when you need to step in and cool things down. Give your child the time to play alone as well because this will teach him/her that staying alone is just as fun as with friends.