Becoming a mother for the first time is a life altering situation. It is the time when you will yourself feel bewildered by the variety of your emotions; where many will feel the need to go back into time and live their old lives, the way it all used to be. There will also be the times when you start to face everything with renewed perception and hopes. You will feel yourself to be on an emotional roller coaster ride almost at all times; it will be an emotional change so strong that you will review yourself with surprise and wonder. From the time that you get pregnant and to the time you give birth, you will start to experience all kinds of emotions all at once; this includes the positive and the negative. Becoming a mother means happily and willingly handing out your life to someone very little, and gaining a new sense of protection for them. Something no text book, website or person will tell you is that being a mother will make you feel happy and sad at the same time for most of the time throughout the day.
Your emotions will be all over the place and that’s okay, be assured that most new mothers go through this even though their timelines may tell otherwise. Remember, for the first few days at least, you will be confused as to how you should handle the baby and what will be best for them. Be prepared for a lot of crying as well, because when you see your little one cry you will end up tearing up as well. You will soon be questioning and second guessing yourself on every step, every move, and at every decision you plan on taking concerning your child. There will be endless times when you will end up crying and clutching your baby after reading or watching something online or on the TV. Every person, even another child for that matter, who says or does something negative towards your child, even if it was accidently, you will want to hurt them and since you can’t it will eventually turn into hate towards them.
For all the new mommies reading this, we would advise that you be prepared for everything as anything can happen at any moment. Though it may sound easy and hard to do, make sure that you do not panic in any situation. If you panic then you will not be able to think properly and react in the required time. So make sure that you use your head in emergency situations rather than your heart. Another important tip is that you must make a daily plan or a routine and work around that. It takes time to adjust, especially the first 40 days, but then it gets easier. When you have a routine in place, you will find your baby adjusting to it as they grow older; making it is simpler for you to get the hang of parenting.
You will always love your niece or nephew or any other child that you have been close to, but once you are a mother, the love you experience will be very different from what it was before. All your thoughts will revolve around your child; how to protect them, how to take care of them, how to make them happy, etc. Every day will bring a new worry issue as well. This can be regarding their hygiene, their potty schedule, their feeding habits, their development, and their sleep. At some point you will feel frustrated by all the baby drama and you would want to take a break, but you will eventually end up feeling guilty about having such a thought. You will check your baby every few minutes to see whether they are breathing or not, and yes this is normal, a lot of parents have gone through this stage.
When you need to discipline your child, the best way to go about it is by using positive reinforcements. But there will be times when you will need/want to use negative reinforcements as well, at this point you will feel extremely guilty but think about it this way: it is for their own good. However, keep the negative reinforcements to a bare minimum. When you see them crying in someone else’s arms you will want to take them back and hold them close because it should be you who they come to. This type of feeling is very normal as well. Running around them will be tiring and the happiest moment of the day will be when they are in bed and fast asleep. At this point you will look at their sleeping faces for hours, with nothing but love in your heart. You won’t want them out of your sight and you will realize that you will happily sacrifice everything for them.
No matter how tired you are no matter how frustrated you are, you will eventually learn that there is not greater feeling than being a mother. So dear new mommy, enjoy every moment with your child. No literature can teach you how to be a good mommy; just believe in yourself that you are one. No one will come close to telling you everything you need to know about being a new mother; you will learn as days go by. So be happy new mommy and good luck with raising your new baby.